Balancing The Triangle - December 2003

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Thoughts, Feelings, Actions - Balancing the Triangle</div> <div> 3. Opportunities & Resources</div> <div> *Overcoming Your Fear of Selling Audio</div> <div> *Achieving Extraordinary Success as a Coach Book</div> <div> 4. Is your organization looking for a speaker?</div> <div> 5. Subscription Management</div> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <div> Rachna's Note</div> <bR> <div> December 2003</div> <bR> <div> Dear Reader,</div> <bR> <div> Hello and Welcome to December. It's funny to think</div> <div> that 2003 is almost over - the year has flown by.</div> <bR> <div> I want to take this opportunity to thank you for</div> <div> your generous participation and support as a valued</div> <div> subscriber to this newsletter.  It is wonderful to </div> <div> hear from so many of you each month who are sharing</div> <div> your appreciation of the articles and concepts we</div> <div> cover. I enjoy this part the best. :) </div> <bR> <div> I hope that this month's article will help you</div> <div> find a way to balance the stress and excitement</div> <div> of the holiday season with your year end and</div> <div> future planning. The idea of "balancing the</div> <div> triangle" (see below) has been very helpful </div> <div> to many people. </div> <bR> <div> I want to take this opportunity to wish you and</div> <div> yours a wonderful rest of 2003 and an even</div> <div> more magical 2004. </div> <bR> <div> See you next year!</div> <bR> <div> Warmly,</div> <div> Rachna </div> <bR> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <div> Thoughts, Feelings, Actions - Balancing the Triangle</div> <div> © 2002-2005. Dr. Rachna D. Jain</div> <div> All Rights in All Media Reserved</div> <bR> <div> Do you think a thought that makes you feel? Or do</div> <div> you feel a feeling that makes you think? Do you</div> <div> act because you feel? Do you act because you think?</div> <bR> <div> Yes.</div> <bR> <div> Why bring this up? (Great question!). It can</div> <div> sometimes be confusing to sort out which came</div> <div> first: thought, feeling or action. Actions are</div> <div> usually really obvious because they are outward.</div> <div> But how do you sort through your internal</div> <div> experience to get clear on what you want to do?</div> <bR> <div> If you're anything like me, you tend to be an</div> <div> action oriented kind of person. I notice that,</div> <div> for myself, I'm always moving into new experiences</div> <div> and out of old ones. I tend to accomplish a lot</div> <div> each day and usually do this with a sense of</div> <div> joyful efficiency. However, sometimes I start</div> <div> taking actions before I've gotten really clear</div> <div> on what I feel. </div> <bR> <div> I think this happens because of lack of practice.</div> <div> I'm very comfortable in the realm of thought and</div> <div> intellect as I generally grasp essences very</div> <div> quickly and am a good problem solver. I'm less</div> <div> comfortable with the sometimes vagueness of</div> <div> tapping into my feelings and being guided by</div> <div> how I feel. This all feels a bit too "woo woo"</div> <div> sometimes.</div> <bR> <div> It's important, though, to think of thoughts,</div> <div> feelings and actions as part of a triad and the</div> <div> triad is most effective when it's balanced</div> <div> between all three sides. This doesn't mean</div> <div> that all three sides are of equal length. But</div> <div> that they are dynamically balanced so that you</div> <div> can move about the angles and tap into the</div> <div> wisdom available from each of the respective</div> <div> parts.</div> <bR> <div> As a coach, I also use the triad/triangle</div> <div> metaphor in working with my clients. I will</div> <div> often point out to a client when I notice that</div> <div> his/her "triangle" is a bit out of whack (lots</div> <div> of feeling or thinking but no action). I then</div> <div> suggest that the client try to get the triangle</div> <div> a little more even - and to be flexible about</div> <div> how this occurs.</div> <bR> <div> I have noticed great shifts in the little</div> <div> exercise of "balancing the triangle" around</div> <div> an important issue. Try it for yourself.</div> <bR> <div> Until next month,</div> <div> Rachna </div> <bR> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <div> Opportunities & Resources</div> <bR> <div> "Successfully Selling Your Professional Services:</div> <div> How to Overcome Your Fear of Selling"</div> <div> Listen in during this one hour recording where</div> <div> I'm interviewed on tools and strategies for</div> <div> overcoming your fear of selling your </div> <div> professional services. It covers tips for</div> <div> handling the initial client contact, for</div> <div> getting over fear, and for "stepping up"</div> <div> when the client asks you what you can do to</div> <div> help him or her.</div> <bR> <div> Available on CD, and for the rest of the year,</div> <div> shipping is f*ree! 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