Building Healthy Relationships - February 2005

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Subscription is available at</div> <div> <U>http://www.ExcelwithEaseCoaching.com</U><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Book Antiqua" >.</FONT></div> <bR> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <div> In this Issue:</div> <div> 1. Rachna's Note</div> <div> 2. Building Healthy Relationships</div> <div> 3. Opportunities & Resources</div> <div> NEW: 37 Ways to Improve Your Relationship</div> <div> *Coming Soon: 177 Low Cost Marketing Ideas for Your Small Business</div> <div> *Get it Done Dissertation Book Combo Bundles</div> <div> 4. Subscription Management</div> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <bR> <div> Rachna's Note</div> <bR> <div> February 2005</div> <bR> <div> Dear Reader,</div> <bR> <div> Well, I meant to get this out to you in time for</div> <div> Valentine's Day, but saw that every other ezine</div> <div> publisher seemed to have the same idea!</div> <bR> <div> Since that's the case, allow me to share some</div> <div> thoughts on relationships - all kinds - now that</div> <div> the Valentine's Day commotion seems to have</div> <div> died down.</div> <bR> <div> I hope you enjoy this issue, and see you next month!</div> <bR> <div> Warmly,</div> <div> Rachna</div> <bR> <bR> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <bR> <div> Building Healthy Relationships</div> <div> Dr. Rachna D. Jain</div> <div> (c) 2005. All Rights in All Media Reserved.</div> <bR> <div> Relationships have been on my mind a lot lately,</div> <div> maybe because it’s February- the month of</div> <div> Valentine’s Day. While this holiday is mostly</div> <div> focused on romantic love, the skills of good</div> <div> relating are basically the same across all</div> <div> kinds of human relationships- whether they</div> <div> be husband/wife, parent/child, brother/sister,</div> <div> or friend/friend.</div> <bR> <div> The basic unit of relating, according to</div> <div> relationship researcher John Gottman,Ph.D, is</div> <div> the “bid”. A bid is defined as a request for</div> <div> connection between two people. Bids can be</div> <div> non-verbal, like hugging, touching, opening</div> <div> doors, passing the salt- or they can be verbal,</div> <div> like asking questions, requesting information,</div> <div> or sharing ideas. Gottman says that healthy</div> <div> relationships have a greater number of bids-</div> <div> more attempts to connect and relate-than</div> <div> unhealthy ones during the same time period.</div> <bR> <div> When a bid is received positively and responded</div> <div> to positively, repeat bids are more likely</div> <div> to occur. When a bid is rejected or ignored,</div> <div> the likelihood that it will be repeated drops</div> <div> sharply. People are not that likely to try</div> <div> again when they feel rejected.</div> <bR> <div> Along the same lines, a recent study coming</div> <div> out of the University of Warwick in England</div> <div> states that being happily married has economic</div> <div> benefits- with happily married folks generally</div> <div> earning more money and reporting greater</div> <div> satisfaction with their financial prospects.</div> <div> The researchers estimated that a good marriage</div> <div> was like making an extra $100,000 per year.</div> <div> What both these examples demonstrate is that</div> <div> good relationships are an important component</div> <div> of ongoing life satisfaction- in many realms.</div> <bR> <div> Since the focus of this newsletter is on strategies</div> <div> for excelling with ease, it occurs to me that</div> <div> building and maintaining strong interpersonal</div> <div> connections can give us great benefits in many</div> <div> life domains- we feel happier, more connected,</div> <div> more at peace, maybe we are more successful,</div> <div> do better financially, and feel more hopeful</div> <div> about the future.</div> <bR> <div> In this month of Valentine’s Day, with all the</div> <div> focus on love and loving—maybe you can take some</div> <div> extra time to respond positively to bids for your</div> <div> time, attention and affection this month. In</div> <div> doing so, you might notice that you feel happier,</div> <div> more contented, and more joyful.</div> <bR> <div> Focus on building healthy relationships, and you</div> <div> will find that excelling with ease comes much</div> <div> more naturally.</div> <bR> <div> Happy February, and see you next month!</div> <bR> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <bR> <div> Opportunities & Resources</div> <bR> <div> *37 Ways to Improve Your Relationship*</div> <bR> <div> Maybe Valentine's Day showed you that your</div> <div> relationship could be improved- or maybe you</div> <div> just want the best to keep getting better. 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