Focusing On What You Want - October 2003

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Get More!</B></div> <bR> <div> <A HREF="mailto:excelwithease-subscribe@excelwitheasecoaching.com" TARGET="_top" TITLE="mailto:excelwithease-subscribe@excelwith"><B>Join Our Free Email Newsletter</B></A></div> <bR> <div> <B>Your privacy is important to us.  Your information will never be sold or given away.</B></div> </td> <td valign="top" height=385 width="100%" BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000"> <div> <B>Focusing On What You Want - October 2003</B></div> <div> Volume II, Issue 5</div> <bR> <div> Welcome to the 'Excel with Ease Newsletter', October, 2003.</div> <div> Please share this newsletter with your friends and your </div> <div> network. Subscription is available at </div> <div> <B><U>http://www.ExcelwithEaseCoaching.com</U></B><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Book Antiqua" >.</FONT></div> <bR> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <div> Focusing on What You Want</div> <div> © 2002-2005.. Dr. Rachna D. Jain</div> <div> All Rights in All Media Reserved</div> <bR> <div> When was the last time that you absolutely, </div> <div> positively knew what you wanted? Was it something </div> <div> simple, and easy to obtain - maybe your favorite meal, </div> <div> or to call a good friend? Or was it something a bit </div> <div> more complex like a raise, a new job, or better </div> <div> health?</div> <bR> <div> Very often, when we want to achieve a goal, we begin </div> <div> taking actions from a place of high energy and </div> <div> excitement. We feel inspired and enthusiastic. </div> <div> Somewhere along the way, though, this drains off, </div> <div> and we sometimes are overcome by fear.</div> <bR> <div> One of my clients, Jeff, came to coaching because </div> <div> he wanted to find and keep a steady relationship. </div> <div> Initially, he was a bit hesitant - uncertain if </div> <div> coaching could help him reach his goal - however, </div> <div> he was willing to give it a try. As we began to </div> <div> move forward, he started to learn a lot about himself -</div> <div> what he required, needed, and wanted in his closest </div> <div> relationship - and he began to see how, in the past, </div> <div> he had sabotaged what he most desired. He was very </div> <div> committed to changing this pattern, and to making </div> <div> his future relationships much better.</div> <bR> <div> All this sounded great. End of coaching - right? Well, </div> <div> no, not exactly. What Jeff began to experience, as </div> <div> he continued to date, and screen, and sort potential </div> <div> partners, was he sometimes felt overloaded by how </div> <div> much work dating was turning out to be. He began </div> <div> to feel hopeless and discouraged, and wondered if </div> <div> he'd ever find "the one". </div> <bR> <div> What do you think was going on for Jeff? He had </div> <div> started to focus on what he didn't want rather </div> <div> than what he did. He began to say, "I don't want </div> <div> this to be too much work, I'm tired of doing this, </div> <div> what if I never find someone?" which were all the </div> <div> feelings/ experiences that he DIDN'T want to have. </div> <div> A good clue to know when you're stuck here - if you're </div> <div> thinking about something and it doesn't feel good. </div> <div> If what you're thinking about doesn't feel good, </div> <div> you're focused on something you do not want.</div> <bR> <div> In Jeff's case, we began to help him shift his </div> <div> thoughts into more of what he wanted - he began </div> <div> to say "I want to find someone wonderful, who </div> <div> is like this, and this, and this." "I feel </div> <div> excited and hopeful about meeting new people, </div> <div> because every date brings me closer to my goal." </div> <bR> <div> It wasn't that this was a simple. It wasn't. </div> <div> However, changing his focus to what he wanted </div> <div> helped him feel more positive and hopeful. It </div> <div> was this sense of optimism and focus on what he </div> <div> wanted that, ultimately, helped Jeff attract a </div> <div> wonderful woman, whom he is now dating exclusively. </div> <div> Together, they are focused on what they want </div> <div> their relationship to be, and it is moving along </div> <div> very smoothly in this direction.</div> <bR> <div> So, as you read this, you might be experiencing </div> <div> something tough or challenging. If you want to </div> <div> feel better, start focusing on what you do want - </div> <div> a loving relationship, good health, joy - and </div> <div> take actions from this place of feeling good. </div> <div> You'll be surprised how quickly you start to get </div> <div> what you focus on.</div> <bR> <bR> <div> &*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&*&</div> <div> Opportunities & Resources</div> <bR> <div> **New Ebook**</div> <div> "How to be a successful dissertation coach"</div> <div> This ebook is for any of you who want to add or expand</div> <div> your dissertation coaching niche. In these pages, you'll</div> <div> find tips, hints, and tools for building and growing a </div> <div> successful dissertation coaching practice. 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